My adopted sister just found out that she is a month and a half along..And now I feel like im gonna be the one kid that gets ignored once the baby comes..There are 4 kids that live in my house, I’m the youngest and I live with my dad..My parents are split up and I wanna live with my mom when the baby comes cause I don’t want to be the one that gets ignored and forgotten and to have a screaming baby keeping me up when I have school trying to get good grades so I can go to college…But I don’t know how to tell my dad cause I’m afraid of what he will say….
Hey! Thank you for reaching out to the YouthLine. It’s totally understandable that you wouldn’t be thrilled about having a baby in the house with school and everything else going on in your life. If you think that moving in with your mom would be the best thing for you then I think you should definitely try talking to your dad about it. It sounds like you’re concerned about what your dad will think, but if you tell him why it will be best for you I think he’ll understand. Most parents have their son or daughter’s best interest in mind and want them to succeed and be happy. It sounds like it’s already hard on you living in a house with four other kids, so maybe you would be happier living with your mom all together. Maybe you could work something out with both of your parents where you lived with your mom on school day but with your dad on the weekends?
I hope everything works out for you! If you would like to talk more about this situation and maybe even role play with a teen how you could have this conversation, please to call our phone line. It is available 24/7, but teens are here to talk to you Monday-Friday from 4-9pm. The number is 1-877-968-8491. You can also text teen2teen to 66746 those same days and hours. If both of those don’t sound like good options, feel free to e-mail us again or instant message by cliking on the “Chat Now” on the website www.oregonyouthline.org
Best of luck,