so my boyfriend broke up with me and now he won’t even act like im even there. I want to date him again but i don’t know how to some people tell me to give hint space then start talking to him but i don’t know what to do…
Hey, thanks so much for reaching out to the YouthLine! Break-ups can be really tough to go through and I imagine you are feeling pretty alone and confused right now since the break-up was not mutual and you still want to date him. At the YouthLine we like to emphasize honest and open communication. Is your ex aware that you would like to get back together and does he feel the same way? I would encourage you, if possible, to have a conversation with him to find out whether or not you two are on the same page and if there is a possibility of getting back together. By letting him know where you stand and finding out where he stands, you can have a solid answer and depending on how he feels, be able to either get back together or start working through the break-up and moving on. I know it may seem a little scary to approach it so head-on, but it will save a lot of confusion and mixed feelings in the long run. Instead of having to make guesses about how your ex is feeling and whether there is a chance of getting back together, you will just know. If that is something you don’t feel comfortable with, that’s totally fine, it is only a suggestion.
The relationship aside, your health and well-being are very important and should come as a first priority. It is important that you are getting plenty of sleep and eating and exercising regularly. I imagine that this break-up has your emotions flying all over the place and probably has you feeling confused, sad, hurt, angry, and determined to get your ex back. All of those feelings are completely normal and understandable. I encourage you to talk to any close friends or family members about it because talking about the break-up and the way you are feeling can really help.
Feel free to give us a call at the YouthLine if you would like to talk more. Our number is 1-877-968-8491. You can also text teen2teen to 66746. Teens are here to answer calls and text messages Monday through Friday from 4-9pm. We hope to hear from you. Best of luck in your situation!